Steve Farrar, founder and chairman of Men’s Leadership Ministries, spoke at Liberty University’s convocation on Monday.
Farrar is the author of the best-selling book “Point Man” and travels the country speaking at men’s conferences, such as Promise Keepers, and at marriage seminars.
Farrar spoke mostly to the male students, primarily from 1 Peter 3, explaining how to be godly men, godly husbands and godly fathers. He spoke about the importance of character and how men should love and honor their wives, be understanding, and protect and provide for their families.
He encouraged the women to take note of the qualities they should be looking for in a husband.
“As you’re listening to what Peter says to the men, you outta be honing in and listening, because this is gonna give you the kinda tips you need to be thinking through in terms of the kinda guy you outta be looking for — who is not only gonna be your husband but is gonna be the father of your children.”
Farrar quotes Peter telling the men, “You husbands likewise … live with your wife in an understanding way. … Be sacrificial men who love their wives, who understand them.”
Farrar explained how every home has an atmosphere and men have the responsibility to set the atmosphere and tone in a home. That tone is either constructive or destructive, he said. Godly men should be preparing to create an encouraging atmosphere in their homes. Compliment, don’t criticize, Farrar said.
Women need a man who is stable, who is going to provide for them, he told the men. “When you get married, it is your job to provide for your family. You’re the man. It’s your job.”
Farrar said young men who grew up in broken families might say, “‘I didn’t grow up in a home like this [a constructive home].’ Then you start one,” he said. “It’s your job.”
He said people aren’t doomed to the failure of their parents. “Put a new link in the family chain. Let God use you to establish in your family a generation of men that honor Christ and honor their women.” You know what a man is truly like, not by how he talks or how he acts in church, but who he is at home, Farrar said.
Farrar wrapped up his talk by emphasizing the importance of taking every thought captive for Christ, as Paul teaches in the New Testament, and he advised all the men to always “be a one-woman kinda man.”