Skip to content
When autocomplete options are available, use up and down arrows to review and enter to select.

Listen Your Way to a Better Relationship

April 2, 2012: Liberty University Press

Lynchburg, VA− Occupy Wall Street and National Basketball Association labor negotiations are perfect examples of all talk and little listening, at least not real listening, in today’s society. What if these problems could be solved through changing the way people listen? Dr. John Brunstetter, author of the new release It Only Hurts When I Listen, suggests “radical servant listening” would revolutionize our society, home and the workplace.


“The main reason for social unrest is escalating communication failure accelerated by poor listening,” said Brunstetter.

In his book, Brunstetter uses his 26 years of extensive research to create a tool kit that provides a personalized listening assessment and other helpful tricks to become a better communicator. This book will teach the reader how to listen and respond to others, using five listening languages: Analyzer/Planner, Taskmaster/Doer, Participator/Relater, Energizer/Innovator, and Flexible/Adapter.

It Only Hurts When I Listen integrates invaluable contributions by author and president of Blackaby Ministries International, Richard Blackaby, management expert and coauthor of The One Minute Manager, Ken Blanchard, and other experts, to deliver a tool kit for harnessing the transformative power of listening in every relationship. Brunstetter’s listening techniques will increase mutual trust, openness and care in every relationship.

It Only Hurts When I Listen can be purchased at

The Radical Listeners’ Pledge
I will show others how much I care by how I listen to them:
I will ask others to speak first as often as possible
I will keep my mouth shut and my hears, mind and heart wide open
I will listen with a sincere desire to be influenced
I will respond to others with an encouraging spirit


About the Author

Dr. John Brunstetter, an Energizer/Innovator listener, is the CEO (Chief Encouragement Officer) for Team Interplay LLC. “Dr. John” also teaches in the Masters of Counseling program at Liberty University. One of Dr. John’s long-term clients has been the Ken Blanchard Companies for whom he has been a technology provider for almost 10 years. In addition, Dr. John has been an Organizational Development (OD) Consultant to WD40, Qualcomm and a variety of high-tech and manufacturing companies. Dr. John is also working to provide communication technology and training to The Stewardship Alliance, Ronald Blue and Company, Family Wealth Partners and other wealth planning companies. These organizations also use the communication technology to develop and grow relationships with internal staff and external clients.

John and his wife Carolyn reside in Lynchburg, Va. and have seven children and 14 grandchildren. It Only Hurts When I Listen is Dr. John’s first book and fulfillment of his promise to document for posterity many of the lessons he learned from his dad and professional mentor “Doc.”

chat live 2 Chat Live
Asset 1 Request Info
Asset 1 Apply Now
visit Visit Liberty